Highly Recommended Resources

By topic – adding more over time. What you find here is the best I have come across within each area.


ABUSE

In Australia the Womens DV helpline number is a free call:
1800 007 339

Note from Heather – when there are no bruises, most on the receiving end of harmful communication patterns are initially unable to recognise their situations as abusive… if this is you, yet you know your relationship has you in deep confusion… read on.


ABUSE ADVOCACY – recovery & companioning

BOUNDARIES

  • Website: Boundaries.me is a brilliant and extensive website from Henry Cloud. There is a small monthly suscription – about $15 aus (stop at any time) with a 14 day intro period for free.
  • Other books: by Henry Cloud. While I have not read them all, I’ve read enough that if he has a book title that fits your situation – I’d recommend it!

CHILDREN – regarding porn and abuse

  • Post & website: Kids & Porn – resource blog post with links to articles, book, course etc

FREEDOM

FORGIVENESS

HEALING SEPARATION

This is a concept you can google or speak to a counsellor about. I have not found a specific piece that I’m 100% comfortable posting but separation can save marriages when there’s such breakage and dysfunction that continuing in the melting pot is no longer going anywhere good. Separation doesn’t need to be the first step to divorce though it is frequently seen that way… It is a very grave decision and needs clear counsel.

Look for these terms “Healing separation”; “Therapeutic separation”; “Restorative separation”. The one article I will link is by Leslie Vernick and does not lay out the structure or possible elements of how an agreement might be made but brings Scriptural wisdom to the table… here is a quote from the first point of the article “Scripture Support for Separation from Destructive Spouse”.

LOVE

MARRIAGE

NARCISSISM

REPENTANCE

SOLO PARENTING & RELATED ISSUES