I’ve avoided getting counselling several times throughout my life when I think it could have helped, for a few reasons.
1. Expense.
2. Believing an undercurrent that I should be able to ‘handle it’, figure it out by myself.
3. Not knowing who to go to.
4. Not wanting the discomfort of confronting myself.
5. Avoiding the feeling of being emotionally naked.
These days, if I feel a need I just go.
Answering the above 5 points of my own…
1. There are some great people out there that either don’t charge at all or don’t charge much and there are schemes that help with that through the medical system.
2. I know now I can’t always handle it or figure it out by myself and that is partly how I find myself in the pickle in the first place. I don’t like the flavour of pickle that much so I know now I need input from elsewhere as my own systems are sometimes not up for the task at hand.
3. I have now found some great people and I did that by launching out and trying to find them instead of sitting alone in confusion continuing to not know.
4. I still don’t like that element much but I’ve had to do it enough to know that it’s worth it. Ultimately a situation may include/involve the actions or attitudes of others who I can’t control but I still need to learn how to manage myself within those situations.
5. I still really hate this but I hate feeling emotionally stuck even more.
On the occasions I’ve been and NOT benefitted from the counsel itself, it’s still been a valuable exercise as it helped firm up what I do need, believe or see as important. I’ve never been sorry.
If you’ve been wondering if you need some counsel, do it.
Get it cranking today.