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There are many marriages I admire but none more so than that of my Mum and Dad. Yes because they are my mum and dad but also because that gives inside knowledge that what you see is what you get. Always.
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Sometimes people or situations teach you what you don’t want to be, and sometimes they show you exactly what you DO want to be.
Visiting a friend years ago, we were in his empty church where we commented on some of the placement of the high-backed chairs dotted throughout the rest of the regular. They were for some of the elderly in the church who were extremely specific about the placement of their chairs every week – and that was one of my “I don’t want to be like that” kinds of moments.
Continue reading “Who do you want to become?”
I experienced something of a time-warp today.
Have you ever headed out into the carpark in the direction of where you parked your car the LAST time you were there? That’s what I did today, not altogether uncommon for me but the twist to it today was that it was over four years ago that I parked in the spot where I found myself looking for my car.
The place was Pinnaroo Cemetary and I had just been to the memorial service for a wonderful fellow who has been our neighbour for over 22 years.
Doug was the kind of neighbour that everyone needs. Friendly, cheerful, chatty, genuine, gentlemanly and retired. The combination of his nature and the fact he was retired, meant he knew, noticed and cared about the happenings in the surrounding homes. He knew and asked after everyone by name… remembered all the kids ages… and who always went the extra mile.
There was the time we went on holidays and as well as feeding our cats and collecting the mail, he took the bins out on rubbish day (which I hadn’t even thought of) AND WASHED THEM after he brought them in.
There was the time some 7 years ago when I knocked on their door full of emotion at our family happenings and barely got hello out of my mouth before dissolving in tears for his kindly face of enquiry.
There was the time shortly after that when he and his wife Pat came over for morning tea and I heard a little of their life and travels.
Gems.
I love watching couples who have been together a long long time.
They teach without knowing they do.
I’ve never been to a funeral and not wished there had been more time.
Throughout the service it was as though I was existing in another service in the same chapel both that moment AND four years ago. Doug’s service today remembered and celebrated a long life of nearly nine decades – the service four years ago was for a life of only four years. It felt like it had been just last week so real was the overlay of memory.
I’ve never been to a funeral and not wished there had been more time.
Remembering two special people today.
One 88, one 4.
Both Home.
“Lord, make me to know my end and [to appreciate] the measure of my days—what it is; let me know and realize how frail I am [how transient is my stay here]… So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom…”
I’ve said before how I love being around older couples who have been married and in love for a long time because they teach without even being aware that they do.
Continue reading “All over tan”
Another older couple I’ve spent time with were married a relatively short time considering their ages. They’d both been married before but had known so very much loss that at no point ever in the time I was with them did they look at each other with anything but sheer adoration.
Continue reading “Older folk I admire”
My mum and dad are my life heroes for a great many reasons and marriage I think, pretty much tops the list. They have been my measure in so many ways. As far as marriage goes, if I can’t imagine them being something, saying something or doing something, it simply doesn’t belong. I have rarely seen the same levels of respect and gentleness and regard for the good of the other. They treat each other like valentines every day.
(This has been a VSP – very short post 🙂 )
A lovely older friend of mine says “we all choose our own experts”. I have thought about this often as I consider opposing points of view and the origin of my own.
What do you make of this statement?
VSP 🙂